Paternalism is like sugar.
At first, it feels good to blame your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your governors, etc. for what you feel is wrong. But in reality, you’re just hurting yourself. You’re acknowledging (loudly) that you feel powerless and with no control about how to improve the things you don’t like about your life or the world.
Like sugar, you don’t feel the consequences of paternalism right away. But like sugar, your willpower and capacity for self-reliance gets weaker and weaker every time you do it, until you see yourself as a victim.
Being a victim is a choice. Just stop eating paternalism sugar.